As a personal growth and development exercise, I encourage you to write a letter to my younger self to explore just how far you have come in life! It helps you examine your personal values and growth mindset. I’ve shared mine below!
Most of us have considered over the years what we would say to our younger selves if given the opportunity. Through the process of personal growth and development, we learn so much about ourselves with every experience of every day over the years. A letter to my younger self is a great way to reflect on all we have learned in life!
We all learn that there are a few things we can count on in life – our lives will change more times than we can count… people will come and go… we will have good times and bad. But it’s so much more complicated than that. Read on!
You will also find Letters to My Younger Self Quotes at the end of my letter. I hope these provide you with additional inspiration!
A Letter to My Younger Self
Dear Younger Me,
Life is complicated and you will go through many ups and downs along the journey. But there are a few things I want to tell you that may help you lead a happier, less complicated life.
*Don’t Rush the Journey*
You will have the rest of your life to be grown up. Enjoy these years and fill them with laughter, adventure, friendships, fun, and joy. Don’t feel like you have to wait until you are grown up to do new things, try new things, and step out of your box.
Now is the time to step out of your box without a worry in the world. Smile more. Explore more. Don’t take things so seriously. Relax, girlfriend! You have plenty of time to be a grown up.
*Accept That People Will Be Mean, But Don’t Hate Them For It*
Ride your bike around the block regardless of who is heckling you or yelling mean things at you along the way. Enjoy the fresh air and the beautiful scenery in the neighborhood. Appreciate the wonderful people in the neighborhood.
There sure are more kind people than mean people, you know?
It’s a one-mile circle of curves and hills, so imagine the wonderful exercise you are getting with each circle. Feel the air flow through your body from head to foot.
Don’t focus on the mean people who throw rocks at you. They aren’t going to hit you anyway! They can’t throw that good!
And remember, those people who are mean to you when you’re riding your bike, they have far more problems than you do. When people are mean to others, it is a reflection of how they feel about their own lives. Remember that and trust that when you grow up, you’ll be able to understand this better.
Those people will be miserable and unfulfilled in life because they haven’t learned to be kind.
Don’t hate people for being mean. Show them kindness because they need it the most. If you can’t show them kindness, at least show them grace and ignore their foolish behaviors.
*You Don’t Have to Be Perfect, You Know?*
You sure are hard on yourself, my friend! It’s not necessary to try to be so perfect, you know? I know it seems like everyone in your family is perfect all the time. And, it seems like everyone loves them and thinks they are perfect, too.
But that’s not really the case.
No one is perfect, you know? Understand that you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself. Yes, you are emotional but you should not keep your feelings bottled up inside of you.
You should express your feelings more and let people know when you are hurting. It’s important to acknowledge what and how you feel so you can work through the difficult times. There is nothing wrong with being emotional.
You are not alone, although it feels that way sometimes. Just trust that it’s better to deal with your emotions and feelings. It’s healthier now and it’ll be healthier when you grow up
You are so smart.
But you don’t need to be perfect. You just need to do your very best and work toward your goals so you can feel fulfilled in life.
That’s a great way to be as a child and an adult, you know?
*Stay Calm and Express Yourself Honestly and Openly*
Sometimes it seems you just stop talking and decide not to express your thoughts if they are different than someone else’s. Or if you think your thoughts will upset or anger someone. Maybe your mom and dad? Or your teacher?
It’s perfectly okay to share how you’re feeling as long as you are respectful, honest, and open in the way you speak to them.
Stay calm. Be confident. Trust yourself to be strong.
When you are an adult, you will be in situations where it’s important to speak your opinions and explain your truth.
Learn to do it now so you are off to a great start! You can do this!
*Not Everyone Is Going to Like You, And That’s Okay*
You are unique and beautiful. I know some days it’s doesn’t feel like it, but you are going to grow up to be a magnificent human who does great things! You matter in this world and should always remember that.
But not everyone is going to like you. And that’s perfectly OKAY, my dear! Think how boring this world would be if everyone looked the same, had the same thoughts, laughed at the same things, and loved the same way.
Imagine! How horrible would that be?
Sweetie, it’s human nature to wish that everyone would like us but it’s important to understand that it’s not going to happen. You aren’t going to be for everyone. Just like some people aren’t going to be for you.
We come from different places and circumstances, we have different values and morals, and our lives are different. So stop fretting about people who don’t like you. It’s okay! It’s their loss!
Stop caring so much about what everyone thinks of you. Be you and be proud.
*Treasure the Relationships You Have With Your Grandparents and Cousins*
They are not going to be around forever. Learn from them. Listen to them. Cherish their stories. Spend time with them.
Can you imagine all the history that the old farmhouse has seen in the past 100 years? What would your life be like if you didn’t have your grandparents’ farm to run around on with your cousins? Not everyone has those opportunities.
The stream with the fish… the barn with the tobacco… the old well on the hill… picking the perfect Christmas tree out of the woods every year. And cooking with your grandmother – she’s a great cook and you’ll appreciate those lessons when you’re older.
Be sure to cherish the time you spend with your grandparents and cousins. Life won’t always be like this.
You are lucky to have grandparents and cousins to love and embrace often.
*Be Grateful for What You Have in Life*
Your parents work very hard for you to have what you need in life. And let’s face it. You also have most of what you want in life. But sometimes it seems that you forget what a wonderful life you have.
Learn to show gratitude all the time and appreciate all that your parents do for you. I know life isn’t perfect. No one’s life is perfect.
Show your parents gratitude and affection for the life they are giving you. Not everyone can say they have a wonderful life.
But everyone can find reasons to be grateful.
*You Will Make Mistakes in Life; Learn from Them*
You know, they say it’s okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from them. We all make mistakes. But if we learn from them, they serve as important tools for personal growth and progress.
So when you make a mistake, don’t beat yourself up or cry. Ask yourself, “What can I learn from this?“
Remember, mistakes are a great way to learn. There’s nothing left to learn if you are already perfect and never make mistakes!
*Listen to Your Heart and Intuition*
For a kid, you have great intuition, you know? You recognize the good in people and sense when there is a problem. You know when someone is not being honest and understand when someone is hurting.
And usually, you are right about what’s happening around you.
Don’t let people take advantage of your good heart and intuitive mind. Be honest with yourself and follow your heart through life. It will help you reach your highest potential and become the person you are meant to be.
*You Can Get Through Hard Times*
Life is made up of good times and bad times. Always remember, you’d never know just how wonderful the good times are if you didn’t have the tough times.
Some people will hurt you, but but other people will bring you great pleasure. Some situations will be difficult, but other situations will be rewarding and fun. There will be opportunities for success, but there will be times of failure, as well.
You are stronger than you think and you will make it through the difficult times. You are a brave warrior and will someday create a wonderful life for yourself as an adult. Just be gentle with yourself.
Now, go practice the skills you’ll need as an adult while still being a normal, happy, carefree kid. I have confidence in you! You’re a great kid and you’re going to be an awesome adult!
All My Love, Darling~
Your Older Self
P.S. Always show yourself KINDNESS.
Letters to My Younger Self Quotes
I’ve seen some beautiful words written in letters to my younger self quotes. Just for a bonus, I wanted to add a few of my favorites to this article as inspiration for when you write your letter to your younger self.
Understand your worth. Value your life. Appreciate your blessings.Unknown
And when it rains on your parade, look up rather than down. Without the rain, there would be no rainbow.K Chesterton
You’re going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it’s always their actions you should judge them by. It’s actions, not words, that matter.Nicholas Cage
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.Various Authors
You are absolutely capable of creating the life you can’t stop thinking about. Stop living in your head. It’s time to make your dreams happen.Unknown
Be brave. Learn Lessons. Do hard things. Build a good life. Have no regrets.Katherine Louise
I have confidence in you and all you can accomplish. You need to have that confidence, too. Go out and climb your mountains, dream your dreams, weather your storms, win your races, learn your lessons, and become the person you are meant to be! You got this!Susan Ballinger
The words you speak to yourself become what you believe. Choose your words carefully.Samantha | A Purpose in Pain
I hope you’ve enjoyed reading this article and have an opportunity to reflect on what you would write in a Letter to My Younger Self. If you write a letter and would like to share it, I would love to read it!
If you found this article valuable, please consider sharing it with others. This is a great exercise for personal growth and development. We can learn so much about ourselves with an activity like a letter to my younger self.
It’s a great way to understand things from the past, deal with emotions, reflect on the lessons, and turn potential negatives into positives. It can be a powerful component of personal growth and visualizing what you would like LIFE to be like, either for you or your younger self. <wink>
Love to ALL! ~Susan
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